Almost 21…still clueless about life

Dear Teabags,

I am going to turn 21 in two days (June 24th) and I am still completely clueless about life. I have never considered myself much of a risk taker and as you all know, without risks there really is not much progress.

For the past two years I have been working minimum wage at a retail store. I am ready to move on, but I do not even know where to start looking. The retail store I currently work at is my first job ever and I still lack a lot of experience. My schedule is not incredibly flexible so it is hard to find another company that is willing to let me work weekends only with very particular hours.

I have been actively saving up money for the future, but there is always one thing or another that comes to drain my savings. Whether I have to make car payments or pay for tuition, textbooks, etc., money comes and goes. It just seems that it goes a lot faster than it comes.

Lately I have been thinking about putting my money into an investment account, most likely a Roth IRA. However, I do not even know where to start. How do I choose which company I go with? How do I choose which stocks to invest in? When do I sell?

Tea Leaf: At 21, I still have a lot of questions about life, so do not worry about having everything figured out before you graduate high school.

Thanks for reading,

Tea G. Sea

 

Sometimes what you want the most is not what you really need.

Hello teabags, 

I have not written in a long time, I am sorry. How is life going? 🙂 Summer school started on Monday for me and I am still on the waitlist. The professor has yet to decide whether or not he can add people to his class, so I am still waiting to find out his decision. :/ 

I recently had that moment in my life where I wish I had something, but it was not really the best thing for me. For example, ever since I started college, I wanted a three-day schedule (Monday, Wednesday, Friday).

It literally sounded like the dream schedule. I generally had Fridays off while I went to school Monday through Thursday. I once had a Tuesday and Thursday schedule, but that was way too intense for me.

All the tests were back-to-back and my classes were also back-to-back. I barely made it on time, because my classes were halfway across campus and I only had 8-10 minutes to walk over.

(On the plus side, I lost a lot of weight that year. No time to eat junk food, but a bunch of time to exercise). Lol! Well, last semester I finally got the schedule I had always dreamed of. The one I thought I would benefit the most from.

Well, the problem with that schedule was that I rarely studied. I slacked off a lot and I am owning up to that, I procrastinated… A LOT.

I definitely paid the price for it, because I ended up doing really bad that semester. One A-, two B-‘s, one C+, and one D+. Those were not the kind of ABC’s I enjoyed seeing.

I realized that going to school everyday was not the best idea for me, especially since I thought I had a lot more time than I really did.

So next semester I am going back to my usual Monday through Friday schedule, except I have a lot more night classes (blegh!). Traffic should not be an issue thought. Hehe! 

Sometimes we spend a lot of time thinking about the “what-ifs,” but maybe those really are not the best for us.

Tea Tip #4: Just go with the flow and try not to overthink things (Harder than it sounds, I constantly overthink things, especially before going to sleep). 

Love you guys,

Tea G. Sea

Grades do not define who you are as a person

Good afternoon my tea-bags, 

Yesterday was the due date for professor’s at my university to turn in student grades. Not going to lie, I am incredibly anxious to see what I get.

I already know I have a B- in one class, but there is one class that I am 98% sure I earned a D+. It will be my first D+ ever. I remember getting my first C+ in my freshmen year and that was already extremely devastating, but I eventually got through it.

What I learned from that experience was that life moves on after a bad grade. The C+ or whatever grade you get does not define who you are a person.

It is your personality or who you are as a person that makes you who you are. The way you treat others says a lot about a person, there is the old adage, “actions speak louder than words.” 

Now, this is not to say that it is okay to blame others for the grade you earned, because you get back what you put in. 

Teachers are not to be blamed for the grade you EARNED. Nobody DESERVES a certain grade, you EARN it.

You earn it by showing up for class, actively participating, and being respectful. Participation does not necessarily mean having to speak up (unless your professor explicitly says so, then listen to them), it just means keeping yourself engaged in the material and taking notes.

It is also earned by actually studying the material. Some classes will be harder than others and some may be easier.

It is up to you to figure out which subjects you are good at and focus more on the ones you need to work on.

Tea-Tip #3: It is not necessary to continually put yourself down or stress out over a piece of paper. (But it is certainly okay to cry if you need to). 

Love you all,

Tea G. Sea

Change happens…and yes, it sucks.

Hello my lovely tea-bags,

Today I felt like writing about a topic that I really dislike, but yet it happens anyw — change. Indeed, change can be for better or for worse. For procrastinating perfectionists, such as myself, change does not come quietly. In fact, change usually comes barreling down at 90 mph right through the front door. Yes, change happens unexpectedly and it happens whether we would like it to or not.

When I was four years old, my parents decided to move to a bigger house. The change was seemingly for the better, but I had to leave behind all of the friends I had made in the neighborhood. Nevertheless, life moved on and I made new friends. 

When I was 15 years old, I was starting my sophomore year of high school and my favorite teachers decided to transfer to another high school or pursue a different career. I was sad to hear the new, but nevertheless, new teachers came to the school. 

When I was 16 years old, my original high school was revamped from an independent learning institute to a school that focused on technological aspects of learning, so it became a virtual learning school. I did not like the new concept, but nevertheless, I graduated. 

When I was 17 years old, I started my driver’s training lessons. My parents hired a driving instructor for me, but in California parents are required to put in training hours with their children in addition to their driving lessons with a professional. My first few days were incredibly stressful, even though I was practicing in a parking lot at 7 in the morning. At the end of each day, my dad would ask if I was ready to go onto the “big streets” and I would always say “No.” Then one day he just told me to go for it, because he realized if it were left up to me, I would always say no. So nevertheless, I started driving. 

When I was 19 years old, I got my first real job in retail. I loved everything about going to work, except for the occasional rude customer who would come in and yell at my coworkers and I for no apparent reason other than to get express their anger. Nevertheless, I stayed.

When I was 20 years old, my manager transferred to a different store and we got a new manager. The new manager is slightly on edge all of the time and easily gets mad at other people for her own mistakes. She lashes out at customers and her employees, especially so when she is feeling stressed. 

(This is where I am at currently in life and I have not figured out my next step yet. However, based on what I experienced previously, I know everything will work out eventually). 

Tea-Tip #2: The world does not solely revolve around us, change happens whether you are ready for it or not. It is not going to wait idly by until we tell them we are ready for it. So just roll with the punches for now, things will get better. 

Love you guys,

Tea G. Sea